Relationships...Love...And All That Casual Stuff In Between

So...b4 I begin...I'm a music freak...so each section is probably gonna end with a song that fits the subject matter. [=)].

So my Intimate Square{not 2 be confused w/The Mainz or The Faves} and I were talking in Popeyes the other night after rehearsal and the topic of relationships came up...which of course led to a discussion on love...which in turn led to a discussion on the casualties in between...hence the title. So the following are just my thoughts on each issue.

Relationships
Ah yessssss...relationships. They can be a great experience with the right person...and a absolutely horrid situation with the wrong person. And there are many different types of relationships...short-term...long-term...open...closed...long distance{another blog for another day} just to name a few. But no matter the title of the relationship...the bottom line is that two people decided to take their "just dating" status to another level. Now I'm more commonly known amongst my friends nowadays as "Betty Crocker" the one who is always cakin...but never gives anyone enough play long enough to form an actual relationship. And for awhile...I was actually fine with that title. But there are some perks to being in a relationship....especially when its with the right person...and dont get it twisted...I do believe that there is only 1 "the 1" for everyone...but, the Mr. Right Nows of the world aren't all bad. But I digress...relationships r cool...because they are a guarantee. You have a guaranteed movie-goin buddy...a guaranteed dinner date...a guaranteed late nite phone convo...a guaranteed person in ur corner...and if rules apply...guaranteed booty. And it's nice from time to time have something that is constant in your life...even if it 4 like...2 months. But more importantly...it's nice to know that someone likes you for you. Now of course, everybody needs some "alone time" especially after getting out a draining or long term realtionship. But after being in a few relationships...one that lasted 4 and a half years and ending with him cheating...one unofficial one that lasted for a year *smhT*...and a more recent one that lasted 4 months but was the most intimate...as well as the "one monthers" here and there, I have finally learned that the best thing a person can do in any relationship no matter how short, how long, how wonderful, and how no so wonderful it is...is to LEARN from it. Learn from your partner...learn about yourself and the type of people u do/don't mesh well with...just...learn! LOL...that way, you won't make the same mistakes the next time around.



Love
Love...the 4 letter word that has everybody on edge. The word that can mean one thing to one person and mean a totally different thing to another. Love...where can I even begin? Well...let me first start by stating this: There is a big difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone. Most people {especially men} confuse the two often. I really can't tell you the differences exactly...because for each person it is different...but when ur IN love...you it's different from just loving that person. It's a certain way you say that person's name...the way you look at them...the outer glow you give that's apparent to other's around you.
Love can be the most beautiful thing in the world...when it's returned...and not said...but SHOWN. Many people can say the words...I love you...see...I just said it...but when you show it...when you make me know it through your actions...there is abosolutely nothing greater in this world. Now just like relationships...I believe that there is only 1 "true love" for everyone...but I do believe that you can be in love with more than one person...not at the same time though. See...we as people are constantly changing...so depending on where we are in our lives, we may have more than one love. Yes, I do believe that it is possible to "fall out of love" with someone...but once you love someone...u always will. And believe me...once you've been in love...u'll kno when you are and when your not. But no matter the outcome...be it eternal or just temporary...there is nothing like the moments you spend being in love with someone...and they love you back.


The Casualities In Between
Before I begin this section, let me 1st start by saying HA! Mmmmkay...now that I've gotten that out. This section has 2 major points...casual dating and casual sex. So I'll save the juiciest point for last...*tee-hee*

Casual Dating
By all means...DO IT! There is nothing wrong with dating more than one person at the same time IF you let the different people you are dating kno that you are dating more than one person at the same time. Not that you have to...I mean ur biz is ur biz...but it's just common courtesy...plus...it'll save you a lot of drama in the end if you are upfront with everyone involved. And casual dating is fun...u get to meet new people...sometimes it can develop in2 a relationship...other times it can develop in2 a real coo friendship...who knows. So with that being said...please be careful...cuz there are a lot of crazy females AND males out there that think 1 date= a relationship.


Casual Sex
By all means...DO IT! LOL...yeah yeah yeah...I kno...shocked to hear it 4rm me right? Well...I'll put it 2 ya like this...Life is short...if u want some...get u some! LOL. Naw.... but in all seriousness...I'm not gonna get on a religious soapbox about how premartial sex is wrong...what you do is ur buisiness...not mine. Yeah...sex is better when you have a emotional connection with the person...but if your not in one...and you want some...y not? The way I see it...as long as you are PROTECTING yourself {cuz sex can equal a death sentence nowadays *cough* HIV *cough*} then I don't see anything wrong with it. And if you dnt put yourself out there like that...and keep your business...your business you won't be labeled as a ho...weeeeeeeeeell...ok maybe you still will...but once again...if ur comfortable with that...do u. But just like with casual dating...u might wanna be upfront with the person you are sleeping with otherwise u might have a serious issue on your hands {the words "A Thin Line Between Love and Hate" come to mind} so just...be careful. Now dnt get it twisted...I'm not saying that I have ever had a casual sexual relationship...it's just not really my thing right now...but if I ever want one...I'm gonna have one...and it ain't nobody's business if I do.


...now of course there are TONS of other songs for each of these...but i got tired of lookin. LOL.

So until next time...Peace and all that other good stuff!